Before we dive into this, can you tell me how is it already September?
Isn’t it crazy how fast time is passing by? Are you overwhelmed, or feel like you are spending most of your time doing things for others and doing almost nothing for yourself? I know a lot of people feeling this way, they are not rich of the new currency. Are you one of them? I was talking to a dear friend of mine, and we were dreaming about having more hours in the day so we could do more of what we love. Less work hours, more sleep hours, but then we came up with the conclusion that it doesn’t really matter. If we had 36 hours instead of 24, we’d still do exactly as we do now, and not take enough time to ourselves. Because that’s what we do, we procrastinate, specially when we are the subject.
Have you ever questioned why is that? Some people wake up everyday already tired or irritated, in a hurry, many times to go to a job that doesn’t fulfill them. If all of your time is dedicated to your partner, children, work, friends, family, co-workers, and none to you, you need to think about this. Have you ever noticed that it might be because there is something about you, that you don’t want to deal with? You don’t want to recognize that your fears are taking over your actions, and that you think you are not enough, or that your life is meaningless. That’s a reflection of guilt. These are fabricated stories you keep telling yourself. These are choices you are making unconsciously, and you know that If you use your time to make it about others, then you will succeed by not making it about you.
I’m going to use this time and space, to encourage you to make a full stop and notice what’s happening around you.
It’s time to be about you. And please, love that. Make an effort to make time. How about less time on social media feeding yourself with comparison and enviousness? How about less time watching the news and feeding yourself with all the negativity and misleading information? Instead, feed yourself with nutritious positivity, joy, love and compassion. Taking time is a mindset. If you believe you don’t have time, and you say it out loud, it turns out you will always be in conflict, full of problems to solve, and guess what? Yes, you won’t have time for anything. Spending time with preoccupied thoughts of the past or future pushes you away from mindfulness. Make an effort to bring yourself to the present moment.
Here are 5 quick steps to make better use of your time and appreciate yourself more.
Positive thinking is the cure for everything. Think that negative thoughts can turn into internalized feelings, so how about start your day with positive affirmations, such as “Today will be a great day” or “I am grateful for Today”?
Self affirmations can improve your life in so many ways. Don’t “should” yourself. You did exactly what was meant to be done, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Also, take care of your surroundings. Surrounding yourself only with takers can leave you drained, irritated, even depressed. We all experience moments of self-doubt, it’s part of being human. Watch your thoughts so they don’t become habits, do your best to improve the positivity around you and inspire your family, friends and co-workers to do the same.
Everyone has a friend or a co-worker that loves gossiping. If you don’t have one, maybe you are the gossiper. Gossiping is a bad habit, do what you can to get rid of it. Hating, ridiculing, holding grudges, only shows you have so much work to do on yourself. It’s unhealthy, and If you are not the one bringing the gossip, remember, the same person who gossips to you, gossips about you. When you feel like saying something, ask yourself these 3 questions: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? If the answer is “no”, then zip it. #LetThatShitGo #BreakTheGossipHabit
It’s very rare to find someone who is not on social media nowadays, and it’s even more rare to find someone who is not always checking how many likes per photo they got. To focus your energy on how many followers, how many likes or the perfect filter, is the ideal combination for depression. It decreases your productivity and self-esteem. Most of the content you see is not even real, or it could be real, but the person on the other side is also human, and also has imperfections, doubts and fear. It’s hard, I know, but try not to compare yourself to anyone. Also, try going electronic free for a few hours. I understand some people use a lot of social media for work (like me), and If you can’t checkout completely, focus on using it more for positivity and self-development.
Nothing better than bringing yourself to the present moment, followed by a calm and organized environment.
Remember, If it’s cluttered around your house, it’s cluttered inside your mind. Schedule some time to clean and organize your space. Spend some time looking for what calms you down, and that could be music, incense, lavender diffuser, some sage, stepping outside and enjoying nature, could even be just the sound of water playing in the background.
Let’s start with something simple but very important; be open to it.
Even If you don’t know where to start, or have a hard time meditating, reserve some time to sit still everyday. Try 10 minutes, then 20, and upgrade as you go. As you sit still, pay attention to the emotions that rise up and stay with it. Don’t try to push it away or pretend you are not feeling it, allow yourself to have that feeling. Put your hand on your heart, feel the beat, breathe. If you want to go deep on mediation, you can find many free guided videos on Youtube. The present moment brings transformation from inside out. Take that moment to love yourself and honor the beauty that you are.
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